and its done

[smirkingcat]

i learned on the late night drive home from the train station that on saturday morning would be the funeral of my uncle
i was not only surprised (since i thought it would happen on tuesday or monday the earliest) but also because that bearly got me a chance for four hours of sleep... i must add i might have been a little bit pissed at my dad for telling me this late when the funeral was set since he knew since thursday...
the funeral itself was nice... loads of tears (not from me) and some very rude side-comments from ppl we didnt even know- one of them had the audacity to go to my grandfather and tell him to his face: "you never thought you would be the last living of the three brothers, did you?" i was like really going to hit her, just what are some ppl thinking?
my uncles kids and his wife for 45 years took it also really badly... but that also was to be expected
then later when we had the meal (its tradition called leichenschmaus- where the family is invited to eat - mostly in a restaurant) it was my uncles favorite food, and in the end we told us thinks we remembered about him and we spoke to parts of the family you never meet, because they are so far away that they arent usually invited
fact remains my grandfather is now the last remaining link between three lines of families, and when he dies the link will be gone... and no one said it, but the possibility of never meeting them again then will be very high... which is kind of sad but before that i hope my grandfather celebrates is 80th birthday and we will see them all again
tomorrow is the first day of my holiday
and i shall enjoy it and be with my cat and in the sun and have relaxing two weeks ahead of me
partly without pc but that too is alright with me and doesnt really bother me so much now tbh
because maybe a break is all i needed
thanks for lending me your strength through this troubled week- i really, really depended on your support and i'm glad for it

Comments

[josephinestone.livejournal.com]

What a weird thing to say. Is your dad a smoker or something? It just seems odd. My dad's older sister and youngest brother both died a few years ago, but from smoking I believe. I remember my aunt had to have oxygen with her for a long time before she died, and that my uncle had cancer but I am assuming it was lung. It might not have been.

People often say that my grandmother is going to out live everyone, because she has always been so healthy. She's 97. Still lives at home by herself. She can drive, but doesn't like to. So normally one of her kids just takes her out in her car to run errands. My grandfather (her husband) died before my mom even started dating my dad. Mostly at the funeral people just talked about how sad it is to have to out live your children. I don't know if anyone said that to her though.

[smirkingcat.livejournal.com]

i thought it was rather a rude thing to say, really deserving of ass kicking, because my grandfather cried a lot for his younger brother and it was really hard to watch for me
and no, he used to smoke but he had quit quite a few years back, and also gran is watching out that he lives healthy - that comment made just no sense and had no room in the funeral

and go your gran!
i never think about outliving, i just want ppl to be healthy and to have fun living- like i understood why my gran wanted to die when she did- because of her many, many health issues - i felt relieve at the time
but healthy ppl dying, or ppl who enjoy living so much- that makes me really really sad

[nia_kantorka]

Funerals are always a sad opportunity to get a family together, yet it's a good thing to see all the relatives one normally doesn't see.

About the comments. Sometimes I'm not sure what people think. It's better to just say a pleasantry (or nothing at all) than something inappropriate like here. Your poor grandfather.


I hope you're able to just enjoy your holidays now. Away from internet and keyboard. Take care! *hugs*

[smirkingcat.livejournal.com]

i agree with you sad opportunity but an opportunity and it was nice seeing them really,

and really i cant even try to understand what she was thinking when she was saying that- i only hope that my grandfather didn't really hear it

at funerals- i usually just keep my mouth shut- out of respect but also because i dont believe there is anything i could say to lessen the grief

and i will try to enjoy as much as i can - but not forgetting my deadlines XD

[capitu]

That's awful to say. :(

I'm sorry this was hard, but I hope you can relax and rest, dear. *hugs*

[smirkingcat.livejournal.com]

so with you on that- some ppl have no shame or basic understanding of human nature

*hugs back*
thanks, i shall try to rest and relax as much as i can!
go holiday go! XD