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smirkingcat) wrote2028-03-15 09:49 am
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The ABC's of Kinks and Paraphilias
The ABC's of Kinks and Paraphilias
so,themightyflynn and i have been chatting the other night, and themightyflynn remembered her kink-list again. we had kind of been playing around with it during covid, but never got around to doing anything about it, because real life. As i am currently trying to step back at work, and get back into fandom, i was all fired up about the idea. we plan to make a little kink-challenge, low entry point low effort, all it takes is one story a month and every thing (paring, fandom, etc) is a go.one letter a month, and you don’t have to start with the a. But as themightyflynn is better than i in explaining stuff, here is her explaination:
Our target is to post a work by the end of each month, starting in March. We both have our own lists, although most of the prompts do cross over between the two. If anyone else wants to participate, feel free to chop and change the list to suit your own abilities. What works for one person will definitely not work for everyone else.
This isn't a fest. There won't be check-ins or penalties for not participating. It will be open for anyone to participate. Feel free to take just one of them, or do each one. Or ignore it altogether. XD We are open to any pairing, any rating, and any fandom. There are no restrictions here. We just wanted to keep active, and figured maybe others would want to take a look, or participate as well.
as themightyflynn and i have very different tastes, i am enclosing my list down below.
also i plan on coming back to this post, and crossing out what i have done, just so that i can keep track somewhere... wish me luck
Kink ABC
Accidental stimulation: refers to accidental physical stimulation and situations that arouse adrenaline and cause arousal. (Bill/Severus last year of HW) Read here: The way he wrote
Body Modification (Tattoos, Piercings Charlie/Draco);
Blindfolds, Begging
Collaring: the act of wearing a collar to show submission, loyalty and/or devotion to a dominant. A collar may be seen as purely sexual or also romantic (similar to an engagement/wedding ring). Collars may be placed on in public or private collaring ceremonies, and dominants may provide instructions for wearing collars. The collar may be an actual collar purchased from a pet store, one that is hand-tooled or a safe-for-work necklace or choker that can be worn in non-kinky spaces. (SS/Blaise or Theo)
Discipline: giving or receiving punishment for perceived or defined infractions. Discipline is a major part of many power exchange relationships and something typically desired by masochists and administered by sadists.
Exhibitionism: a common fetish for being naked and performing sexually in front of a person or persons. Masturbating for your partner is a mild form of this kink, but performing in sex windows or at BDSM shows and parties is a safe way to explore this fetish. Sex in public is partly exhibitionism.
Food play: incorporating food into sex. This may mean using someone as a dish or table, covering your partner’s body with food and licking it off (think whipped cream or chocolate sauce, but you can get creative!).
Gags: a form of mouth bondage. Gags come in many forms, but ball gags are the most common. They may also take the form of bit, cleave, pacifier, penis or spider gag, among others. Mouth gags aren’t usually dangerous, but they can be uncomfortable. Make sure to fit the gag properly to your (or your partner’s) mouth.
Haematophilia: sexual attraction involving blood.
Hybristophilia: arousal by the knowledge that one’s partner has committed a heinous act or crime. This can include cheating, lying, robbery, or murder. This is sometimes known as Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome after the American bank-robbing and murdering duo.
Immobility: a kink involving bondage and forced feeding. Impregnation A/o/B; Impact Play/ Intoxication
Jerk off instructions (JOI): Being instructed to told to to masturbate. (Draco/Hugo)
Knife Play
Leather and lingerie
Mutual masturbation:mutual masturbation involves two or more persons stimulating each other.
Nyctophilia: if you love the night, you might have this fetish. It can also refer to fetishizing darkness. Dark Room Scene
Narratophilia: a fetish shared by those who enjoy telling and listening to dirty stories, talking about sex or incorporating dirty talk into sex
Odaxelagnia: kink for biting or being bitten. May or may not involve blood.
Pyrophilia: sexual arousal through watching, setting, hearing/talking/fantasising about fire.
Quirofilia: fetish for hands. Some people fetishize certain parts of the hand such as the fingers or fingernails. Others may prefer hands of a certain size or shape. Still others with this fetish may enjoy seeing hands performing certain actions. It could be masturbation or something nonsexual such as washing the dishes.
Rimming/Roleplay
Sensory deprivation: any play that prevents someone from using one of their five senses. Blindfolds block sight, gloves prevent touch, earmuffs deprive the sense of hearing, etc.
Triolism: a fetish for threesomes. This may include a kink for watching your partner have sex with someone else
Titillagnia: while tickling can be a form of teasing, it’s a kink in its own right for some people. Those who enjoy tickling may enjoy surrendering control or struggling to retain it. Tickling to the point of urinating is also one flavor of this fetish. Tickle torture is a kink for tickling or being tickled while bound
Threesome, Tickling, Teasing
Uniforms: uniforms, of course, can make someone seem like a powerful person (military, police and firefighter uniforms are some of the most popular) or help you get into the role of a naif (schoolgirl, waitress, Playboy bunny) and a well-fitted uniform shows off a person’s body in just the right way. If your job requires a uniform, you’re in luck. Otherwise, you can hit up a costume shop or even buy uniform-inspired lingerie.
Voyeurism: a kink for watching someone else while naked or engaged in sexual activity. Voyeurs and exhibitionists make excellent pairings.
Wax play: using wax during sex. Wax comes in the form of massage candles, which are relatively safe. But other types of wax may have a higher melting point and be more dangerous.
Xylophilia: fetish for wood. It may also be described as an attraction to nature, sexual or in general. Xenophilia: sexual attraction to exotic people or objects.
Zooophilia
i hope you will be interested in playing with us.
till then, wish you a good time
so,
themightyflynn and i have been chatting the other night, and themightyflynn remembered her kink-list again. we had kind of been playing around with it during covid, but never got around to doing anything about it, because real life. As i am currently trying to step back at work, and get back into fandom, i was all fired up about the idea. we plan to make a little kink-challenge, low entry point low effort, all it takes is one story a month and every thing (paring, fandom, etc) is a go.one letter a month, and you don’t have to start with the a. But as themightyflynn is better than i in explaining stuff, here is her explaination: Our target is to post a work by the end of each month, starting in March. We both have our own lists, although most of the prompts do cross over between the two. If anyone else wants to participate, feel free to chop and change the list to suit your own abilities. What works for one person will definitely not work for everyone else.
This isn't a fest. There won't be check-ins or penalties for not participating. It will be open for anyone to participate. Feel free to take just one of them, or do each one. Or ignore it altogether. XD We are open to any pairing, any rating, and any fandom. There are no restrictions here. We just wanted to keep active, and figured maybe others would want to take a look, or participate as well.
as themightyflynn and i have very different tastes, i am enclosing my list down below.
also i plan on coming back to this post, and crossing out what i have done, just so that i can keep track somewhere... wish me luck
Kink ABC
Body Modification (Tattoos, Piercings Charlie/Draco);
Blindfolds, Begging
Collaring: the act of wearing a collar to show submission, loyalty and/or devotion to a dominant. A collar may be seen as purely sexual or also romantic (similar to an engagement/wedding ring). Collars may be placed on in public or private collaring ceremonies, and dominants may provide instructions for wearing collars. The collar may be an actual collar purchased from a pet store, one that is hand-tooled or a safe-for-work necklace or choker that can be worn in non-kinky spaces. (SS/Blaise or Theo)
Discipline: giving or receiving punishment for perceived or defined infractions. Discipline is a major part of many power exchange relationships and something typically desired by masochists and administered by sadists.
Exhibitionism: a common fetish for being naked and performing sexually in front of a person or persons. Masturbating for your partner is a mild form of this kink, but performing in sex windows or at BDSM shows and parties is a safe way to explore this fetish. Sex in public is partly exhibitionism.
Food play: incorporating food into sex. This may mean using someone as a dish or table, covering your partner’s body with food and licking it off (think whipped cream or chocolate sauce, but you can get creative!).
Gags: a form of mouth bondage. Gags come in many forms, but ball gags are the most common. They may also take the form of bit, cleave, pacifier, penis or spider gag, among others. Mouth gags aren’t usually dangerous, but they can be uncomfortable. Make sure to fit the gag properly to your (or your partner’s) mouth.
Haematophilia: sexual attraction involving blood.
Hybristophilia: arousal by the knowledge that one’s partner has committed a heinous act or crime. This can include cheating, lying, robbery, or murder. This is sometimes known as Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome after the American bank-robbing and murdering duo.
Immobility: a kink involving bondage and forced feeding. Impregnation A/o/B; Impact Play/ Intoxication
Jerk off instructions (JOI): Being instructed to told to to masturbate. (Draco/Hugo)
Knife Play
Leather and lingerie
Mutual masturbation:mutual masturbation involves two or more persons stimulating each other.
Nyctophilia: if you love the night, you might have this fetish. It can also refer to fetishizing darkness. Dark Room Scene
Narratophilia: a fetish shared by those who enjoy telling and listening to dirty stories, talking about sex or incorporating dirty talk into sex
Odaxelagnia: kink for biting or being bitten. May or may not involve blood.
Pyrophilia: sexual arousal through watching, setting, hearing/talking/fantasising about fire.
Quirofilia: fetish for hands. Some people fetishize certain parts of the hand such as the fingers or fingernails. Others may prefer hands of a certain size or shape. Still others with this fetish may enjoy seeing hands performing certain actions. It could be masturbation or something nonsexual such as washing the dishes.
Rimming/Roleplay
Sensory deprivation: any play that prevents someone from using one of their five senses. Blindfolds block sight, gloves prevent touch, earmuffs deprive the sense of hearing, etc.
Triolism: a fetish for threesomes. This may include a kink for watching your partner have sex with someone else
Titillagnia: while tickling can be a form of teasing, it’s a kink in its own right for some people. Those who enjoy tickling may enjoy surrendering control or struggling to retain it. Tickling to the point of urinating is also one flavor of this fetish. Tickle torture is a kink for tickling or being tickled while bound
Threesome, Tickling, Teasing
Uniforms: uniforms, of course, can make someone seem like a powerful person (military, police and firefighter uniforms are some of the most popular) or help you get into the role of a naif (schoolgirl, waitress, Playboy bunny) and a well-fitted uniform shows off a person’s body in just the right way. If your job requires a uniform, you’re in luck. Otherwise, you can hit up a costume shop or even buy uniform-inspired lingerie.
Voyeurism: a kink for watching someone else while naked or engaged in sexual activity. Voyeurs and exhibitionists make excellent pairings.
Wax play: using wax during sex. Wax comes in the form of massage candles, which are relatively safe. But other types of wax may have a higher melting point and be more dangerous.
Xylophilia: fetish for wood. It may also be described as an attraction to nature, sexual or in general. Xenophilia: sexual attraction to exotic people or objects.
Zooophilia
i hope you will be interested in playing with us.
till then, wish you a good time